The Purpose Code — Book Review
Jordan Grumet is a hospice doctor turned financial independence author and podcaster. I reviewed his book Taking Stock about a year and a half ago. In it, he applied lessons he learned working with the dying, then challenged readers to take stock of their lives and spend money more intentionally.
The response to my review was overwhelming in terms of both the number and depth of comments and emails I received. This topic hit a nerve. Many of us struggle with these issues in our financial independence journeys.
While the book undoubtedly hit the mark for some readers, it triggered others emotionally. Grumet wrote a new book, The Purpose Code. The book will be released today, January 7th.
Grumet opens The Purpose Code with feedback from readers who expressed “purpose anxiety.” One quote sums this idea up. “I’m so sick of people telling me to find my purpose. I don’t know my purpose and it’s stressing me out.”
In The Purpose Code, Grumet explains the benefits of living a purposeful life and helps readers figure out how to do so. Here are my biggest takeaways.
Differentiating Purpose and Meaning
The terms happiness, purpose, and meaning are nebulous. It’s hard to hit the target when it’s unclear what we’re shooting for. Grumet differentiates these terms. He suggests each is different and highlights the importance of understanding and addressing them separately.
Grumet defines meaning as our cognitive understanding of the past. It is backward-looking.
Meaning is the way we internally make sense of our life experiences. He suggests that particular experiences don’t define whether we will live happy and fulfilled lives. Rather it is the stories we tell ourselves to make sense of these experiences.
Unhappy people regard past hardships as events that made them victims. Happy people frame past hardships as stepping stones to a better future. This reframing of our experiences to create meaning is the basis of psychotherapy.
Grumet defines purpose as pointing to action. It is present and future-focused. This is the primary focus of The Purpose Code.
Happiness in this framework largely results from living a life of meaning, purpose, and connectedness with others.
Creating “Little P Purpose”
My favorite concept in the book is Grumet’s differentiating “Little P” and “Big P” purposes. When thinking about purpose, most people think of “Big P” purpose.
Someone trying to conquer space travel, cure cancer, or solve the challenges of global warming has a purpose. If you don’t have those types of ambitions, you must lack purpose.
These are examples of “Big P” purposes. People whose lives are driven by “Big P” purpose change the world. Sometimes.
Unfortunately, “Big P” purposes are rarely fulfilled. They can create anxiety for those whose life is driven by these massive and largely unachievable goals. They also create anxiety for those who think they should have a “Big P” purpose but don’t.
Don’t fret. Grumet suggests that finding and pursuing your “Big P” purpose is the wrong target.
Instead, he suggests we should focus on “Little P” purpose. “Little P” purpose has the following characteristics:
- Focus on personal satisfaction vs. your impact on the world.
- Having many small purposes vs. one dominant purpose for life.
- Enjoyable and achievable.
- Not goal-dependent, but instead acknowledges incremental change and progress.
- Creates health and longevity benefits.
That certainly sounds more appealing and achievable! But how do you implement this type of purpose into your life? Grumet suggests creating “The Climb.”
“The Climb”
Grumet describes the process of finding and cultivating your “Little P” purpose as “The Climb.” Pursuing more purposeful activities first requires creating the time in your life by subtracting out some current activities. He suggests going through your schedules and routines and asking, “Does this activity warrant my time and attention?”
Then you must add in new activities that will move you toward a more purposeful life. This is easy to say but can be hard to do. Grumet provides useful parameters to help guide you.
He suggests activities should not, at least initially, rely on financial gain. Activities should also be “goal agnostic.” Instead, the joy should be in doing the activities, and it should be impossible to fail.
No particular activity requires monogamy. You should experiment with different activities until you find what fits.
When you are doing activities you truly enjoy and are passionate about, it is easier to create meaningful connections with others. The role others play in your purpose is another area where I appreciated Grumet’s nuanced presentation in the book.
The Role of Others
In The Purpose Code, Grumet shared research revealing the positive benefits associated with community are essentially the same as those associated with purpose. The relationship between purpose and community is summed up well in this quote from the book.
“When we intentionally engage in deeply meaningful activities, we find people with the same calling. We bond to those people through shared goals and interests. These people become our community.” He calls these “communities of internal purpose.”
That quote caused me to reflect on a post I wrote years ago about choosing where to live in retirement. I focused largely on living near the activities you love and how that helps create your community. This is inconsistent with countless articles I’ve read over the years suggesting the best places are based on cost of living, taxes, etc.
Like Grumet, my initial career was in healthcare. I also related to his anecdote of feeling disconnected and unfulfilled in that setting. Also, like him, I’ve found a sense of community and a feeling of purpose and connection in my role as a financial blogger, author, and planner despite spending much less time and making considerably less money in these roles.
I also appreciated the nuance with which he differentiated between building connection through living purposefully vs. making others your purpose. This was exemplified in what was described as the “Myth of Joyful Parenting.”
“Little P” purpose can sound selfish. Grumet argues that when we pursue these activities we “change not only ourselves but the world around us.”
Many people build their entire identities around being a parent, a spouse, or their career. This can lead to feeling a lack of purpose when your children grow up, you lose a spouse, or are no longer working.
Regret vs. Disappointment
The final chapter of the book was about using regret to drive your pursuit of purpose. I’ve written about regret and appreciated Grumet’s perspective on the topic from his work as a hospice doctor.
He differentiates regret from disappointment. Disappointment lacks agency. It is too late to do anything about things. He describes what he often heard when working with people on their deathbeds as disappointments rather than regrets.
In contrast, he associates regret with agency. If we are willing to be honest with ourselves now we can act on things we currently regret and right those wrongs.
- Try that activity we’ve always wanted to try.
- Travel to that place we’ve wanted to go.
- Start the business you’ve always wanted to start.
- Say ‘I’m sorry’ to the person you’ve wronged.
- Pick up the phone and reconnect to the person you’ve drifted from.
He suggests that many people use lack of time and/or money as excuses for not pursuing these purposeful activities while providing compelling evidence that this is generally not the case. Instead, we don’t do these things because they can be hard and scary.
His observation is consistent with many retirees who have a crisis of lacking purpose and meaning at a time when they have more free time than they’ve had since they were children.
Should You Read The Purpose Code
Many readers of this blog start reading because they are trying to answer the question Can I Retire Yet?, thinking this is strictly a financial question akin to solving a complex math problem.
However, once we decide we have enough money, many realize there are bigger questions to answer and challenges to address. Having more time in retirement can create a crisis of purpose and meaning.
The Purpose Code is thoughtful and nuanced. Grumet explains why pursuing activities that may seem selfish and indulgent can help you find your purpose. He differentiates creating connections through purposeful activities vs. making others your sole purpose. He acknowledges the fact that we all face different challenges, some unimaginable, while nudging you to move beyond a victim mentality and to address your regrets before they become disappointments.
If you are experiencing the aforementioned crisis of meaning and purpose, The Purpose Code may be exactly what you’re looking for. I humbly suggest you start thinking about these topics long before entering crisis mode.
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plan to read it this year
I retired a few years ago and believe this book will help me finding small p purpose going forward.
Thanks for the book review! I really think I am going to enjoy this one. Once I heard about focusing on small wins a couple years ago, it has been a game changer for me. I used to have “To Do List” anxiety, thinking about the whole list and its persistent existence (LOL!) – similar to unmet Big Purpose anxiety. Focusing on doable, daily wins is a much better way.
This sounds like a book that is sorely needed. So many of us retirees focus on the financial and we let the other important areas slip. I have found my “Little P” though it took me almost a year after retirement to find it. Now I get so much joy and fulfillment out of it and I am starting to find that community. The only unfortunate thing is my partner does not share my little p and I sometimes feel guilty for engaging.
A good review of a book I would find interesting. Thank you.
This is a well-written and insightful review that really captures the essence of The Purpose Code. It does a great job of breaking down Grumet’s ideas on meaning and purpose, especially the distinction between “Big P” and “Little P” purpose. The focus on community, reframing experiences, and acting on regrets feels especially relevant for anyone navigating retirement or major life changes. It makes the book sound like a valuable and thought-provoking read.
Interesting to differentiate Purpose and purpose. Look forward to reading the book.
I read his first book and it definitely got me thinking. I’m now on the “eve” of early retirement and trying to figure out what’s next – this sounds like a good reference / framework to help with that.
Thanks for sharing!
This was a terrific review. I’ve been focused on my Purpose and love the idea of instead focusing on my purpose!
This definitely sounds like a book that touches on all the key issues of /he second half of life. I would like to read it because it sounds like a fresh take on the struggles many of us have in retirement.
These recommendations are good life lessons. I’ve read purposeful information on AARP’s programs which I haven’t been able to relate to. Looking forward to reading this book.
Chris, I have been an ardent follower since the Darrow days. I am recently retired and really enjoy your comments and guest writers. Thank you keep up the good work. I have enough money but struggle becoming a spender rather than a saver. Any insight on this psychological transition would be greatly appreciated. Blessings Rick Bateman
Thanks for your review Chris. I would love to win a copy of the purpose code.
Sheila
Your book review comes as perfect timing for me. Thank you for the breakdown. I’m now on the search for and open to new small p purposes.
Thanks for the insight on a book that may be helpful to me.
Ralph
Thanks for the review. I read Taking Stock and look forward to reading The Purpose Code
After many years in one career field, I retired and we lucked into 2 acres of land. Now we are restoring the land, removing trash and debris, clearing overgrown brush and planting native plants and transforming the area into a bird refuge. It’s very satisfying and it is accomplished a little at a time.
This sounds like a book that should be required reading for anyone making a significant change in their life. I’m looking forward to reading his thoughts and suggestions.
I just retired and would be very interested in reading this book.
Great book review. Looking forward to it. In the middle of reading Everything is F@cked. Great book on its own
Sounds exactly like the process I’m in right now! New retirees quickly discover that you can only travel so much; then you realize that you somehow have to fill all 24 hours in a day! Doing something purposeful makes all the difference, so you don’t spend your days watching TV and running down the clock!
I’m grateful for reading your insights, as well as being focused on this new book. I’m at that point struggling with timing to retire. Purpose and intent are so critical to having wealth, a wealth that is not necessarily financial in nature.
Thanks for this article. Perfect timing as I think about how/what I want to do in the new year!
I’ve been “retired” for about 4 years now. It really took me until this past year to begin discovering my passions outside of work for financial gain. As a former small business owner, the shift from does this benefit me financially to do I enjoy this really hits home. Also I like his idea of finding your “purpose” – or at least activities you enjoy and using that to find your community.
Very timely topic. Love the concept of Big P vs little p.
Chris…I always enjoy your very fair and balanced review, whatever the topic. Your review here aligns with the sort of objectivity you exemplify. Keep up the great work and thank you for the insight you generously share.
The Purpose Code sounds like an interesting read for those who are introspective and looking to the future of how best to spend their retirement.
Finding little p purpose seems interesting, think I’ll add that book to my wishlist. Thanks for the review!
This sounds like a really interesting read! I’ll definitely be adding it to my list for the coming year!
Today is my 67th birthday and some days I feel like I have more purpose than others. Often the surprising thing is how busy you can be, a sentiment I’ve heard often from other retirees. I have a long “list” of things I plan to do including volunteering, learning, travel etc., but the goal I’ve recently tried to embrace is using wealth now to help family and others rather than leave large amounts when I die. Topic of this new book sounds like another way to focus on that. Great review, thanks!
Great review of the book. I’m going to retire soon and this book sounds appealing to me to help me get in the right mindset.
This discussion in exactly why I haven’t retired. The book is very timely for me. Thanks.
Thank you for this article. I know someone who has gone from being a workaholic to literally having nothing to do. It’s a serious crisis. (Not kidding.)
I have been retired for a year now, and can definitely relate to the concept of not having purpose. Right now I feel as if I have kind of wasted a year. I realize I need a “plan” moving forward if I want to make the next phase of my life meaningful and happy. Kind of clueless how to make that happen. Perhaps the concepts discussed in the blog and book might help me make progress?
Thanks for the review. I have been reading this blog for a long time now!
Always look forward to your weekly posts. Insightful and informative. This review certainly makes me look back at my accomplishments and under achievements as well. Needing to consider doing a “premortem” ala the WSJ article week: (https://www.wsj.com/arts-culture/books/new-years-resolutions-ron-shaich-cava-panera-c0fb7922?page=1).
Thank you Chris (and Jordan). It made me remember “The Top Five Regrets” by Bronnie Ware and her point of trying to live an authentic life – as opposed to the life others want you to live. Such books are wonderful to reflect beyond our financial plans.
The topic of purpose in retirement takes a different turn for non-profit executives whose careers were, definitionally, purposeful. Do we continue in the same field with no pay and/ or fewer responsibilities? A kind of purpose-lite? Do we consult? Do we focus on family? Do we use our myriad skills for other causes? Or do we take the time to find purpose in things that give us joy after a life of serving others? I have friends who have taken all these purpose-driven past.
I’ve chosen the latter—opting for a life of travel and exploration and reading. I’ve got plenty of purpose catching up with all the things I gave short-shrift while doing mission-driven work.
I meant paths!
I am within a few years of retirement, and this seems a great topic to start noodling as part of my preparation.
I’m currently thinking about retiring within the next few years and wondering what my little p is going to be.
What a thoughtful review of The Purpose Code. As a 9 year retired female surgeon, due to medical circumstances, I was initially concerned about the purpose issues mentioned. I started out by constructing little projects and deciding which ones brought joy. Now I harvest honey and grow vegetables. Pretty crazy.
This review leads me to believe this new book will be similar to “Atomic Habits” and other books in that rather than focusing on a goal or quest one must focus on the small actions that will lead to achieving the larger action. I want to read more books. Don’t focus on that, focus on reading 25 pages a day…at the end of the year, you probably read more books. I’m looking forward to reading it!
Thanks for highlighting this book, I’m curious how it stacks up with other big holistic retirement planning and purpose books.
This sounds like an intriguing book, Chris. I appreciate your thorough review and thank you for the opportunity to win a copy.
Great review; thank you! I look forward to reading the Purpose Code. I love the concept of little “P”.
They synopsis you wrote of the book The Purpose Code is very timely for the point I’m at with my retirement decision making. I’ve realized the elements we give up when we stop working, such as purpose and sense of community and identity; and envision (as best I can) how this can exist in some of my anticipated retirement activities. The additional detail of “Little P”, “regret/disappointment” certainly give more thought to how I make these transitions. I’m intrigued…. Thank you. Paul
Thank you for introducing me to Grumet. I intend to read both his books. I’ve followed your site for several years; retired at 68 in 2020 from a career as an engineer in the oil industry. I feel I may have already stumbled upon some of Grumet’s principles I’ve also just published a book, ‘An Einganeer’s Tale ‘. It’s a short, humorous memoir about my career. In it, success only comes after I stop chasing the Big Ps. Accomplishing the Little Ps brings the confidence and freedom that makes the Big Ps achievable.
Little “p” vs. big “P” kind of reminds of an analogous story I read in the local paper recently. In it, most New Year’s resolutions fail fairly quickly because they are “moon shots” instead of small, achievable goals. Incremental is the way to go. Little wins can stack up to eventually be a big win(s).
I can fully relate to the comment about trying to find a purpose is stressful! I have been retired for one year and “think” about what my purpose in life is daily. But, I don’t think have a true purpose that I am aware of. At 74, I am healthy, happy and still have a house full including adult children and grandchildren. I guess my purpose is keeping things up around the home so that we have a safe place to live and can all enjoy our life. Fortunately, I still like cooking and cleaning. Maybe that is my little “p” purpose in life.
Very interesting. I didn’t realize all my hobbies were “little purposes”.
Hi Chris,
I, too, was a physical therapist and struggled to find purpose in my profession until I started to work with the old and very old. I worked in outpatient orthopedics, neuro rehab, the burn unit, cardiac rehab, home care, a skilled nursing unit where we did “rehab to home”. They were refreshing in their perspective and excited about improving their mobility.
I also took time off to be a stay at home mom after I had our third child. I went back to work after my youngest was 5. Then I was fortunate enough to work part time.
I always felt that giving back to the community and helping those less fortunate provided purpose for me. Being a mom, working with the seniors who needed help, also provided purpose, but I knew that sometime, I could be easily replaced in my job, and that I wouldn’t be needed as a full time “mom”, once my kids were married and starting their families. Which happens to be now.
My husband and I did exactly what the book suggested, finding in retirement a community in Florida that offers activities we love and a spiritual component with plenty of people who want to grow their faith.
We had a hard time leaving our family behind, up north, so we manage two homes to make sure we are spending time with each of them. It’s a budgeting nightmare, but we have managed it pretty well for almost 10 years.
I’d love to get a copy and read the book! Thanks so much for your blogs and insights!
I have been retired for about 2 years. This book may help me to focus on better tasks than I have done by myself,
Hi. Really enjoy your blog posts and emails. From a Christian perspective, the primary purpose in life is to have a relationship with God. We are to get to know Him and make Him known. We glorify God, love others, and disciple others. These overarching purposes are often expressed through building relationships, serving others, reflecting Christ-like character in all aspects of life, and continuously learning about God through prayer, Bible study, and fellowship with other believers. We all have the same big P (which is very achievable by all) but when it comes to the little P we all have a different calling based on our God given talents, personality, and interests.
Always been a big fan of Doc G and look forward to reading his new book.
This sounds like an exciting read – just what I need to contemplate at this time in my life!
Hear his talks on these topics and found them really well thought out. Interested if the book lives up to it.
My husband and I are entering our 1st and 2nd full year of retirement, respectively. I love the idea of ‘small p’s’ and how we might discover and implement them moving forward. Thanks for the book review and the opportunity to receive a copy.
Good review. Purpose Code looks promising.
This sounds like a worthwhile read. Thanks!
As someone who has poured so much of my soul into work and (embarrassingly) trying to gain the validation of others through my work identity, this topic sounds perfect for me right now. I’ve crunched the numbers so many times and know it is time to take my foot off the gas but something stops me. The idea of planning little P’s is something tangible I could get my teeth into so I like the sound of this book a lot!
Chris – I enjoyed reading your excellent summary of “The Purpose Code” book. In particular, I liked the nuanced differences between regret and disappointment. I am looking forward to reading this book.
Cheers,
LR
Thanks for reviewing The Purpose Code. Would enjoy reading the book.
Jordan always has such a calm, thoughtful approach to his outlook on things. I’ve had many life altering events since I FIREd and am always searching for another small P. I’m looking forward to reading this book.
Nice review Chris. I look forward to reading it.
I’ll have to check out his book, this “purpose paralysis” really resonates with me.
I’ve been FIRE’d for 11 years now. Darrow’s was the first blog I started following leading up to my decision. It’s been enlightening following Darrow, and now you, for this time. Excellent book review, Chris.
sure, throw my ticket into the drawing.
Just added this to my Amazon cart. Really interested in reading this book. Thanks for the review.
I agree that people put too much weight on this hefty goal of ‘finding your purpose’ – it causes ‘analysis/paralysis’ instead of looking for things that excite you and just do those. Purpose and meaning will emerge as a by-product rather than an initial driver.
Thank you for highlighting Dr. Grumet’s book, and taking the time to share key thoughts from it. Regarding the importance of community to individual purpose, there’s plenty of evidence that we all need people connections for our own health and well-being. It doesn’t need to be hordes of people or be formally organized to be beneficial. It starts with a single connection. A recently retired friend shared their daily assignment: do one thing for their body (walk, stretch), do one thing for their brain (learn something new, work on some puzzles), and do one thing for their community (pick up some trash on the walk, volunteer for something). It’s very doable and feels like ‘little p’.
After 7 years of early retirement I have seen so much packaged drivel on the most basic aspects of money management in retirement. It’s encouraging to see a broader approach to the challenges of having enough money but not enough insight into personal fulfillment.
I look forward to this new book as I have read Grumet’s prior book. I read Kirkpatrick’s ‘Can I Retire Yet?’ as part of my retirement planning. I still re-read the “Postscript” every year as an affirming touchpoint. Keep up the great work on the web. Cheers!
The Purpose Code has an interesting premise. In a way it connects to a topic with which many retirees – including myself – fund a struggle: the decumulation phase. Find the little p purpose might help to shift the focus AND give the person permission to spend more. I look forward to reading the book. Thnx for sharing!
Chris,
Thanks for the preview. I am interested in the book and look forward to reading (maybe my free copy 😉)
This is an intriguing idea. My little p purpose seems to be duplicate bridge. I have wondered if the amount of time devoted to this hobby is selfish. But the talk of community is spot on. We moved to a new state after retiring and I immediately found a new community of bridge players. They have become my social circle which has expanded well beyond simply the bridge club.
I would enjoy reading the full book.
Chis, thank you for the extensive review of The Purpose Code book. I think reading the book will help me refine my retirement and add more meaning, purpose and fulfillment to my life. I read Taking Stock and look forward to reading The Purpose Code.
Thanks for the review of The Purpose Code. You peaked my interest. I’d love the free copy!
Wow, what a great concept for a book. I look forward to reading it.
I’m looking forward to this book’s release. Purpose has been my biggest struggle, and I have found it hard to let go of my old working life and move on. I’m intrigued to read more about the ‘Little ‘P’s’.
Chris,
With all due respect to you and the author, my faith in Jesus Christ as our savior and the fact that this life is temporary and heaven is eternal drive my purpose while here on earth. I retired at 52 (now age 61) and I’ve spent the better part these 9 years:
Serving at my church as President and director of our food pantry that feeds hundreds of families (many with kids and grandkids) every month
Doing VITA volunteer taxes
Taking care of our elderly parents and a former employee of mine who need daily caregiving, being there financial and healthcare POA’s, executor for several wills of family members and I could go on.
My take is if you have the faith that God put you on this earth to serve and not to be served, although some days easier said than done, then it is crystal clear what purpose we have while on this earth. A wise Pastor once said to me “God did not put us here to be comfortable but to be useful”.
Even small “serving” activities make large and lasting impacts. Look around, there are so many in need of love and attention. Just open up your eyes in your daily life. It is so rewarding to know you can help those in need either physically, spiritually or emotionally.
Thanks for you and Mike Piper for your web sites and blogs. Tremendously helpful information. Keep up the good work. When I enter heaven, I want to hear “well done good and faithful servant”. Amen!
I appreciate your review of the Purpose Code, it made me what to read the book. I quit my job four months ago at the age of 56. I really felt I didn’t want to work anymore, or at least not work as much and not in the same field(medical social work). I felt burned out and that work was keeping me from doing the things I really wanted to do, things like gardening, caring for our home and spending reconnecting with friends and family. Well, I didn’t last very long, I reached out to my old boss to asked if he still needed someone and I’ll be returning to my old role in two weeks. I have read about retirement for years and knew that could happen. I guess I wasn’t as prepared as I thought. So, maybe reading the Purpose Code could help me. Thank you for writing your blog, I enjoy it.
Thank you for this book review. Food for thought.
The Purpose Code sounds like the book I need.
I’ve spent my life as a workaholic. I thought I was accomplishing something as a professor with my students. But, I got old. My students did’t care for working with an old guy and my VP wanted me to leave as quickly and quietly as possible. So I thought I would go and do something great! No dice. I’ve not found another big P purpose. The little p purposes are what I need. It’s sort of a form of self care. I’m looking forward to all the help I can get on little p (its not gone well so far)
I have found the transition from a full time career to retirement to be great in so many ways…. but finding my purpose has been a struggle for me. I hope that Jordan’s book holds the key to helping me find more “small p” purposes that are meaningful to me.
I retire this September! This book may be just what I am looking for. Hopefully I win a free copy.
Sounds like an interesting and helpful book, would love to read it.
It sounds as if ”The Purpose Code” can offer the guidance and inspiration I am looking for as I plan my transition into early retirement. I would love to win this book.
Would love a copy of this book!
Thank you for this article. There is a lot more to our retirement years than financial. 🙂 My husband and I get caught up in being focused on day-to-day life maintenance and economic needs without figuring out the best use of our time/life now. We have both lost parents in the last few years which also causes us to think differently and this book sounds like a good read.
Have a fantastic 2025!
Linda N
Dear Chris, I’m grateful for the insights you’ve shared during the past several years I’ve been reading your blog as part of my preparation to retire. Now that my final employed-work day is coming up at the end of June, figuring out my “little p” purposes for the next phase is definitely on my mind, and the opportunity to read The Purpose Code at this inflection point seems like just the thing. Thank you for the info and the opportunity!
I’ve read, or tried to read, a few “find your purpose” books and never felt I was the target audience as a person early in retirement. I’ll have to ponder the idea of big P vs little p and see if that is what is missing.
I’m planning to retire early at the end of 2025 with the intention of spending more time with my kids and getting healthier. It seems one of those goals is good for finding some “small p” purpose, but the myth of joyful parenting seems like something I should definitely read. I loved Taking Stock and look forward to reading this next book.
Sorry, I missed most of this discussion. I had to p.
It seems this book is perfect for me. I left the corporate world during a downsizing, thought I was taking a sabbatical while I travelled extensively and did some non-profit work but ended up loving the freedom of financial independence. Since then my main purpose has been taking care of family, dying parents, struggling teens, getting more physically and emotionally healthy. I see these are little p’s but after the recent death of my mom I am struggling with issues of grief, meaning making and wondering how to restart this next phase of life with purpose.
As I have aged(soon to be 78), O have begun questioning my existence on earth, “purpose” if you will. One of my friends suggested that we create our own purpose here on earth.I guess that my thought goes back to birth. At birth was there a reason for me to exist, period? Searching, I have come up with no viable response or purpose….STILL, searching!
I love that this blog covers all aspects of retirement, not just financial.
Having just retired for the third time, I think it’s time to look for some purpose and stop filling my time with more work. Good review – thanks! I’ve got the time now (again) for some reading!
I’ve listened to Jordan’s podcast off and on over the years. Looking forward to reading his new book. I’ve read a few other books on purpose and none of them have really hit the mark for me because they were all focused mostly on the “serving others” as a way to meaning, but what I found is that I’ve been serving others my entire life, more serving isn’t what I was looking for.
Thanks for the recommendation!
I retired in August and feel this is the perfect time for me to read this book. I truly appreciate the review!
Thanks Chris for the introduction to this very interesting book. I definitely plan on reading it. Best wishes to you in 2025!
What a valuable point of view and perspective!
Planning on reading more… as I recently retired early, any knowledge is helpful, even if just to know that I am on the correct path.
Thanks for the early book review. Added to my reading wish list.
This book sounds really beneficial, especially for where I’m at right now. I’d love it if I were the one to win a copy. And if I’m not, I’ll just go ahead and buy a copy.
I agree with the initial quote, too often people stress out over not finding their purpose. I llok upon as finding joy each day in the little things, spending time with friends, family, grandkids, reading a good book. We all don’t have to make a huge difference in the world. Teaching our children and grand children, how to be good citizens and savers/investors gives one joy.
Sounds like a great book.
You and Mike Piper both wrote about this book today…makes me think I need to read it.
I will be retiring later this year and my husband keeps warning me that I need “something to do”… so this book sounds like it might be a good catalyst for figuring it out.
This book sounds like an excellent read for before and during your retirement journey. One more for the arsenal! Thank you for a compelling review.
I am an Occupational Therapist currently working part-time and on the verge of retirement. I am often reflecting on what my purpose will be going forward and your review of the The Purpose Code book really intrigued me and hit on some major themes I have wrestled with. Thank you for your consideration of sending me a copy of the new book.
I do like the article and I would read the book. I believe that purpose is more meaningful while you are retired. It is more difficult to choose when you need to generate income and are looking at your time and activity to achieve this main objective, but it gives perspective on a more balanced and future-oriented view. I am close to retirement, not by choice, I liked what I was doing, and it satisfied me and this was more important than the money aspect and now I am considering what to do with my time. Little Purpose resonates with me. I am reading The Joy of Not Working also, so I can appreciate the not working aspect and consider what can I do. Thanks for the summary.
Ready to read the Purpose Code after losing my significant other very unexpectedly. On the other hand, the Bible has provided me with one purpose. Be Joyful Always, Pray Continuously, Give Thanks in all Circumstances. 1 Thes. 5:16-18.
I’m excited to check out this book! Thanks for the recommendation.
As a retired teacher, whose sense of purpose was largely entangled with my work, this really resonates. And, more than once, have had a fellow retiree — who seems on the surface to have it all — remark that they are increasingly bothered by a sense that their retired life serves no purpose. In our hearts, most wish to be of service to others in some significant way.
Thank you for taking the time to write an insightful review. It sounds like a book that could be helpful to many.
Big P versus little p. Very intriguing concept. As someone who has struggled with purpose after retirement, I’m looking forward to reading this book.
Sounds like a great read, thanks for sharing!
Sounds like I should give this a read, I’m 6, 12, or 18 months out from retirement, just can’t pull the cord.
Appreciated the summary and would be appreciative of being considered for the book giveaway. Negotiating many of these questions now in anticipation of my own retirement!
I am currently reading Jordan’s 1st book, Taking Stock. Thank you
This book could be incredibly insightful and useful as I plan to retire soon. Please enter me to win a copy.
Thank you for the overview and intro to the Purpose Code. I’m in a huge life transition with my husband passing last June and taking an extended break from work, so the book couldn’t come at a better time. Without work or years of caretaking, I’ve felt a bit lost, so I love this concept of Little Ps and finding small ways to experience purpose in my daily life.
I really appreciate your newsletter and your content. A big “thank you!” and Happiest of New Years.
Thanks for sharing your review of this book. It makes me want to read it!
Thanks for the review. It is an important topic and I think one that who are approaching retirement think or worry about. It is good to know that there is a book that can help us to avoid regrets and disappointments.
I’d love to be included in the drawing for this book.
Retirement is indeed about so much more than finances. I always appreciate your posts where you reach beyond money into the domain of quality of life and how it pertains to the retirement season of our lives. Your review and recommendation of this book points to the fact that with so many different ways to do retirement, finding a sense of purpose along a chosen path makes the journey all the richer. I look forward to reading this book!
Sounds like a very interesting book and I would love to read it.
Thank you for writing this book review, which may not have been simple to summarize so many key concepts. The perspective from a hospice doctor would be really interesting to me and I breathe a sign of relief when I hear that not all purposes have to be Big P, Phew I can focus on finding the little P’s!
I’m retired 2 years and continually working on refining my purpose. Sounds like interesting reading!
I enjoyed reading your article and look forward to the book.
Chris,
I have followed you and Darrow for more years than I can even remember, and finally expect to retire within the next 3 months. While I have not been concerned about not having a purpose, reading this particular book at this particular point in my journey might make a lot of sense…before I establish any new habits. Not only do I need to adjust from saving to spending, I need to adjust from reading about preparing for retirement, to reading about making the most of retirement!
Thanks again, Chris for all you’ve done in the past few years and how you’ve brought in other writers to supplement and complement what you and Darrow have built.
Very interested in reading The Purpose Code. Read Taking Stock absolutely one of the best reads ever. I also gave a copy of Taking Stock to my 3 boys for Christmas in 2023.
Thanks for all you do!
God Bless, & Safe Travels,
Troy
Excellent articulation! I love the concept… will be thinking on it for a long while. Thanks for sharing this!
I’ve not thought a whole lot about this issue. I think that “small p” living comes naturally to me. On the other hand, my wife seems to be disappointed that she has been unable to achieve her “large P” goals. Perhaps I will obtain this book and work with her to adjust her attitude before it is too late.
Chris, thank you for bringing such a wonderful book to us!
Very good review. I will be interested in reading the book. I retired 6 months ago. I am enjoying it. I have found my small “p” purpose or actually many by regularly donating platelets, visiting and helping older neighbors, etc. They are small achievable actions that help others and makes a difference. For example, just taking out your neighbors trash is a small task for me but a huge help to others.
Small purpose equals random act of kindness. If we all did small purpose then together we part of a bigger purpose.
Be interested to read The Purpose Code
Thank you for the review. I am looking forward to reading this book soon.
It looks like a book worth reading
HEY CHRIS HOPE ALL IS WELL. WOULD LOVE TO WIN A COPY OF THE PURPOSE CODE.HAVE A GREAT2025 FROM JOHNSTOWN PA.
I’m looking forward to reading the book. Thank you!
I was retired, now I’m semi-retired. Neither way is as fulfilling as I would like. Dr. Grumet’s approach may be helpful for me, and I am attracted to it by your “thoughtful and nuanced” description.
Regards,
Gene Sutton
The Purpose Code sounds like a very interesting book. His other book Taking Stock is one I will have to read as well.
This sounds like an interesting book that would be a nice read. I am contemplating retiring soon and the non financial side is what I am more concerned about and this may give me some good direction.
Chris,
Been following Darrow for several years and then you. I was a software engineer so I Should favor Darrow but I honestly can’t say who I prefer better. You both have a passion that you share. I always look forward to the newsletter and am always more than satisfied with my read. I was Always told I need to find my purpose in life. Still looking and not finding it. Perhaps this book will enlighten me.
Love your posts.
Diane
Thanks for the review. It was very helpful.
Since my retirement more than 9 years ago, I have realized that I was really like a hamster spinning endlessly on the wheel. No real purpose – just stuck in the rat race; ever busy with never enough time to “do it all” but no real purpose attached to it other than “bringing in the bacon”. So far I have enjoyed these last 9 years so much more because I’ve had more time to reflect about what I really want out of my life and have set out to accomplish it.
Based on your review, it really sounds like a book I will look forward to reading.
A great summary of The Purpose Code. I’m relieved to focus on identifying Small P’s and not required to have one or any big P’s. And I need to stop dwelling on the financial side, I have enough! Thank you Chris
Sounds like the perfect book to read to start a new year
Excellent review, Chris, thanks for shining a light on this subject.
Every personal finance/FI blog and Youtube channel is hyping this book this week. Every single one. With only glowing praise and no critique at all. It makes it hard to take any of you seriously, since this is obviously an organized PR campaign.